A Man 'Drugs' His Date's Drink: What Do You Do?
Would You Speak Up If You Saw Someone's Drink Get Drugged?
I'm really disgusted at the people for generally being idiots.
The thing you *should* do: call the police on your cell while walking towards restroom (enough distance so that guy doesn't hear you), tell the girl authoritatively that guy drugged her drink and police is already on the way and that she needs to remain here until police arrives, but shouldn't go to the guy for a bit (so that she won't alert him somehow by her behaviour). If police takes a while to arrive one might ask her to keep guy busy (if she really wants to help the police - or one could tell bartender and bouncer and put guy under civil arrest, or a zillion actions really that can keep him from leaving before police arrives). You might think its harsh on the guy. Well it is not up to a single person to decide how harsh is enough for a person you know nothing about; it's a job for a well informed jury. For all you can know, the guy may be a serial killer.
Why you should do the right thing in such situation:
1: if you are among those whom care (people whom stop in Milgram's experiment): you should do this simply because this is decent thing to do. Imagine if next day in newspaper you see that the girl was found dead or disappeared, and her parents are devastated and police says it may be work of serial killer. You'll feel like total shit for a long long while, won't you? Or for a short while if you are prone to suicide. I'm pretty sure I don't want to find out whenever I can take this kind of shit on my conscience or not.
2: if you are among those whom don't care (deliver lethal shock in Milgram's experiment): you should do this, albeit the motivation would be quite elaborate:
The guy is ain't no mafia, the mafia doesn't do this shit! The girl's almost definitely higher social status than guy. Plus if you are a guy, even if you are happily married, someday you may need a girlfriend. Now the police. The guy has drug residue on hands, in the pocket, and original capsule in the pocket, plus in girl's drink. The case is as straightforward as it can ever be; you don't even need to be a witness. Police will be happy to improve their statistics! You're making friends with police! I been in Russia for some time, and Russian police is (supposedly) very bad, corrupt, and so on. But even there, in this drugging drink situation, for sure they'd arrive promptly, not to save girl but to have some fun busting some idiot with drugs and improving their statistics (an opportunity to catch an idiot to hang unresolved murder cases onto - they're gonna do that anyway - it better be this guy than some random guy).
But that is theory.
The things people actually did fell between:
1: Acting as if nothing happened.
2: Confronting the guy, but not preventing girl from sipping the drink, not informing the girl.
It is so disgusting. The first course of action, well it is cowardice. But what the hell is second? Risking trouble on yourself but NOT protecting the innocent? (what if he overdosed it or it is a (slow acting) lethal poison). And NOT getting yourself any reward for the risk, either. In a situation whereby you can protect the innocent with a minimal risk and all sorts of reward, for those selfish-inclined. This makes no sense at all - this is just idiotic.
What really, really, really disgusts me about this sort of stuff is stupidity. The stupidity that makes ordinary people be more evil, in a practical sense, than a cold minded psychopath who got no conscience at all (a cold minded psychopath, if he is smart enough, would not miss opportunity to be a hero with almost no risk! It's a jackpot situation for a cold minded psychopath - afterwards he most likely gets someone whom he always can ask for money, sex, and shelter; and something that would reduce his sentence if he ever commits a crime himself and gets caught).
We need to teach this in school, what to do, when you see a crime going on like this (call the police, stay out of trouble and protect the victim, this is not mutually exclusive). Drop the bullshit, recognize the fact that some people are selfish and some are selfless, some have conscience and some do not, and most are in between, and provide a rational explanation why this is a right thing to do, that's good for entire spectrum. Explain that it is at once moral, rather safe, and the society rewards for it - win win win. So that even the mildly evil people with no goodness and no conscience would do the right, good thing when they see situations such as that going on, even if for a selfish reason. Stupidity is the root of all evil. There is an old Russian saying: stupid friend is worse than smart enemy. You can combat stupidity by education.
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